Wanting

 I want someone who... 

• is driven on his own yet supportive of others and their pursuits
• is self-aware yet not self-absorbed
• is well-read and can intelligently discuss literature, politics, religion, and the math and science topics that fascinate me (Bookish people are able to build entire worlds in their minds!)
• is open to my influence and suggestions on topics that I may be more knowledgeable
• can teach and train others
• uses both skills and tools to keep daily routine manageable
• wakes up wanting to connect with me since the sleeping hours have separated us for hours
• has a history and eduaction comparable to my own
• can recognize when a time-out in a conflict can help - and makes sure to solidify the plan to revisit the issue so that my abandonment issues do not get the best of me
• can be goofy/silly and let me be the same
• is soft witn an edge
• is not afraid of a little adventure and a little "unknown"
• wants an actual (equal) partner - not a subordinate or a boss
• respectfully questions my thought process when I veer off path from my actual intent (seeking to understand)
• has his own interests that do not conflict with his values or my values
• is a gentle person with the ability (but tnot the inclination) to use hidden strength/power (think the martial arts master who is not "showy" about those skills)
• makes me feel seen
• I want the Gomez to my Morticia.