12/22/2025
After several years of silence of a couple of years, I spoke with a friend on the phone recently.
He and his wife have spent years in therapy, mostly finding ways for my friend to bend and stretch (and compromise) because the will of his wife demands it.
I know that I do not know all the dynamics within their relationship, but I do know this man well. We met in 1998, and we've been pretty solid fixtures in each other's lives over decades. He's so much like me it's sometimes scary, and I know he's in hell right now.
I know my role is to help support him through this major change in his llife. I just hope he lets me.
4/29/2026
Today, this friend told me the following regarding my worry about another friend who is making some mistakes in his life:
"You are allowed to exist without supplying everyone in your orbit value at every moment."
I am so glad E and I talk often. He is getting ready for legal battles, and he seems aware that I am forever in his corner.
